I used to think I put myself first, or that at the very least, on an equal level with my family. I, Randi Jo Torgrimson, hard core feminist, non-working but bachelor’s degree holding kinesiologist, former business owner, teacher, mother, dream-carrying human, would not sacrifice her own life for the sake of her family’s. Wait a minute, yes I would. If […]
Growing up is hard, especially when it's your kids.
Someone once told me, in what could be a sanity-saving conversation, that you choose your own parents. As in, pre-incarnate, you choose who you are going to be born to. This isn’t a conscious choice you remember once born, like, you pop out and go, “hey! How’s it going? I picked you as my parents because I have all these […]
I had a plan for the day, for the week actually. I was going to get shit done. I was going to write, I was going to clean my house and plan some meals and get some groceries so I could actually cook for my kids. Hell, I was even going to build a deck. And then my plans went […]
Spring break has ended. Two weeks (yes, in our school district it is two weeks, not one) of being off from school. Two weeks with my kids at home; no holidays, no trips, no plans, nothing. Was I excited for them to go back to school? Meh. Sure, I guess. Did I survive it? Yeah. I did. I barely […]
…even if your parents tell you you should! My daughter just came into my office, her lips trembling, tears threatening to spill. Why? Because she’d just looked up some puppies she wanted on the shelter website, only to discover, they were gone. No longer available perhaps? But here’s the thing. She was never allowed to get the puppies. She just […]
Tomorrow, if I get my shit together in time, I will be heading down south for a little holiday with my two children. Because I live in the arctic (okay, no I don’t, but it sure as hell feels like it sometimes), going to southern BC means driving for a minimum of 12-hours. With the amount of times I have […]
Lately I’ve felt this need to pray. Not all the time, but just in moments. Moments where my son is at the starting gate, revving the engine of his little Cobra 50 dirt bike and lined up with 20 or so other kids all who are also rearing to go. All of whom are focused on the countdown and who […]
This morning I was sitting in my chair in my little corner of my office, journaling. Sometimes I just randomly write down my thoughts and other times I puzzle through things that are bothering me. Today, it was the latter. I was trying to figure out why I’d been so frustrated and angry and disappointed and upset lately (yes, I know, I sound like I’ve just been a ton o’ fun, well, here’s a shocker: I haven’t). This morning I was going through all the things that I’d been promised, assured of, or even hoped for, that I knew were never going to happen. Yes, I was wallowing in self-pity, but I was upset. No, disappointed, because I’d gotten my hopes up for things that I knew just weren’t going to happen. Things that I’d now either have to figure out how to do myself (in some cases, a long shot but not impossible) or just give up on entirely. So then, I asked myself. If these were things that I cannot fix or change or build or adjust, if these things I wanted were outside my power to bring to fruition, did I want to sit here and let it make me miserable or did I want to figure out a way to move on from it. I was putting all my eggs in someone else’s basket waiting for them to do it for me instead of seeing what was […]
Growing up, it was all about me. I was often told by my siblings that I was selfish, self absorbed and all that. But I never believed it. How could I be selfish? I wasn’t mean or petty, I didn’t bring others down to make myself shine, I didn’t make rungs out of others to get to the top of […]
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